Is this you?
You feel like you live in a world that wants you to push, to work harder, and to always put other people first.
But, in trying to keep up with all those demands, you've lost track of what brings you joy, and how it feels to have fun and relax into pleasurable moments.
When it comes to sex and sensuality, the demands and expectations seem even higher: you're meant to look a certain way, be able to have (multiple) orgasms, have a reliable libido...
When was the last time you felt able to say
what YOU want and need
what lights YOU up
and what feels good for YOU?
We're guessing you probably feel like you've lost touch with yourself.
Perhaps you’ve done some Googling, looking for answers to questions like:
Am I normal?
Why don’t I want sex?
How can I get my sparkle back?
Can I have more than this?
With Foundations of Pleasure, you can start from wherever you are now, with as little as two minutes a day, and learn how to build delicious pleasure habits that will last you a lifetime!
Why do women need pleasure?
Pleasure is an important part of all our lives. It helps to refuel and rebalance us. Without it, life can feel drab and flat and uninspiring.
However, many of us have a tricky relationship with pleasure: we want it, but we can struggle to prioritise it, to know how to make it happen, to commit to it… especially when there are so many other demands on our time, attention, and energy.
Pleasure sounds like a great idea in theory.
But we may have trouble knowing what it could be like for us in practice.
And, if we look around for cues, we are bombarded with highly aspirational images and information about pleasure.
We’re told pleasure means…
The best sex ever!
Love your body!
Rock their world!
And all these things are great but...
How do you go from where you are now, to experiencing pleasure in the ways that YOU truly want?
Foundations of Pleasure is for you if...
- You know it’s time for you to get to know yourself better.
- You want something that will meet you where you're at.
- You are looking for an easy and enjoyable way to get in touch with what feels good for you.
- You want to get out of your head and back into your body.
- You want to discover more about pleasure.
- You want to feel more confident.
- You want to be able to show up as your whole self.
- You are ready to try something new.
It's time for more enjoyment and pleasure in your everyday life – in and out of the bedroom!
What is Foundations of Pleasure?
- A self-paced, online course – you can do it in the comfort and privacy of your own home, and at times that suit you.
- A balance of information (because knowledge is power!) and our unique ‘pleasure practices’ – playful and creative things for you to try out (not just read about) so you get to learn what feels good in your body, as well as in your mind.
- Accessible learning – short videos, guided visualisations, and the choice to read or listen to each lesson. You can do all of the activities on your own and without the need for any special equipment.
- Gentle, fun, and easy to bring into your everyday life – the practices take from 2 minutes to around half an hour so you can fit them into your day without them becoming another thing to add to your ‘to-do’ list.
With Foundations of Pleasure, you'll explore...
Open up to new possibilities
Put aside all the things you think you already know about your sensual and sexual self, and get curious about what feels good and right for you now – at whatever life stage you are at and with whatever history and past experiences you bring with you.
We’ll show you how to use pleasureful practices to make curiosity a habit. With these tools and techniques, you’ll soon get into the habit of stepping beyond old habits!
Meet your playful, creative self
The person you were 10 years ago, 5 years ago, or even 1 year ago is not the same person you are now. Your sexual self is always changing and evolving.
Being creative is about giving yourself the permission to explore the full spectrum of You. Pretty much anything is possible in the world of your creative imagination and we’ve got some creative pleasure practices for you to enjoy.
Embodied experiences of pleasure
Your body has the potential for great sensual and sexual pleasure. But we are rarely asked: what feels best for YOU? What do you want and need?
These embodied pleasure practices will help you find your answers. You’ll begin to notice and experience pockets of pleasure throughout your day and explore being a source of pleasure for yourself.
Keep your inner flame burning
Do you know the difference between desire and arousal? Have you heard about spontaneous and responsive desire? Is your libido the only way you feel your desires (or lack of desire)? And how about your fantasies? What do you know about them?
Explore pleasure practices to help you get more intimate with your desire. Tap into how it feels for you and develop ways to keep that inner fire burning – whether you want it to be a small flame or a raging furnace!
What will you be celebrating?
"Things have changed so much from allowing myself pleasure. Such an amazing gift, way beyond what I ever expected!"
“I can’t get over how my mindset has changed since doing the course. It’s been an increasing cycle of noticing and then actively creating my life in a way that is pleasurable for me. It’s also helped me communicate clearly, and differently about what I want with my husband. It has been life changing.”
Consolidate and integrate
Your journey with pleasure doesn't end here.
It's time to consolidate and integrate everything you've learned and experienced and choose your next adventure!
We'll offer some suggestions and support you to build on your Foundations of Pleasure.
Meet your course guides
Jennie specialises in applying psychology, neuroscience, and creativity to help people ‘find their joy’. She is passionate about the importance of pleasure in a healthy and balanced life. She is also a mother and wife, a business owner, and has rebuilt every aspect of her life (including her sex life) after experiencing a life-changing illness.
“I believe that everyone (including you) deserves and needs pleasure. But its often forgotten or forbidden, so you may be feeling a little shy, overwhelmed or disconnected. I'm here to give you some guidance and support, and to make sure you have a lot of fun on your journey back to pleasure.”
Anna is an erotic writer, health researcher, and has worked in the field of conscious sexuality as a sexual surrogate partner. Her writing about sexuality spans over 20 years and has helped women find out more about – and enjoy – their fantasies and desires. She also brings her experience of being part of queer, kink, and spiritual communities.
“I want you to know that it’s okay to be yourself – in fact, it’s better than okay, it’s wonderful. You don’t have to try and fit into anyone else’s definition of ‘sexy’– you get to choose who and how you want to be, and you also get to evolve and change too. You get to choose you.”
What previous participants want you to know...
The combined wisdom and experience of Anna and Jennie have been exceptional and I know I will continue to revisit the meditations and workbooks on my own and also with my husband in the future.
Thank you both for everything you have offered in this course.
It has been a life-changing investment.
The combination of grounded, practical, factual information and playful, creative practices was perfect for me. I felt very safe, held and supported throughout the course.
I learned a thing or two about my anatomy and the connection between our creativity and sexuality. I broadened my definition and experience of pleasure, deepened my respect of my body’s cues about what feels good and what doesn’t, and the need to honour this and give myself time.
I wish that I had been introduced to some of these practices and information when I was younger as I spent many years thinking there was something wrong with me for having desires or wanting more pleasure in my life.
This course 'allowed' me to explore in such a gentle and inviting way, and really feel more intimately connected to myself.
We’ve developed the materials for people who have been socialised as women and we centre on women’s experiences throughout the course. If you are trans, non-binary or genderqueer, you are very welcome here (as long as you feel okay with us referring to ‘women’ in the materials). We each bring very different experiences of ‘being a woman’ – Jennie is cisgender, straight, a wife and mother; Anna is cisgender/gender-responsive, queer, and has a female partner and two cats.
We encourage you to explore your sexual self at whatever life stage you are at now. The course is open for all adult (age 16+) women. We are both midlife and share our experiences of having got to this age and stage.
All of the pleasure practices can be done on your own, regardless of whether you are in a relationship or not. If you are in a relationship, you can choose whether or not you want to share any of your experiences with your partner. We also welcome women regardless of their relationship preference and style: single/solo, monogamous, polyamorous… you are all welcome.
We will invite you to explore your own body, in your own private space, if you wish. We will talk about genitals and sex (including masturbation), but we won’t be sharing any nudity, genitals, or sexual acts as part of this course.
We never want pleasure to be one more thing to add to your to-do list so we offer short practices for you to do when you have time available. Some of the practices take only 2 minutes, others can take up to 30 minutes (or longer if you wish). You can work through the materials at your own pace.
- Enjoying your body right now, just as it is.
- Knowing what you desire and being able to ask for it.
- Feeling relaxed, confident and playful.
- Finding pleasure in everyday moments as well as in the bedroom.
- Building pleasure habits that will last a lifetime.
What we want for you...
We want your journey with pleasure to be a happy and successful one.
We want you to know that pleasure is always within your reach (yes, even in amongst everything else).
And we want you to have strong foundations that you can build on so that pleasure isn’t just an occasional treat, but something you can experience, and benefit from, every day.